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TEXT BY PRABHDEEP SINGH MATHARU<\/strong><\/span>
\n PHOTOS BY AANCHAL MALHOTRA
\n<\/strong>New Delhi, India<\/em>
\n<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Exactly two months after my grandfather died, all his sons gathered in his room. For the last five years, I had been living with him in that room since the day my grandmother left this world and so I too was ushered in and asked to open the old brown Goddess almirah in the room. This room was now considered mine, but I still don\u2019t see it that way. I call it bhapaji da kamra,<\/em> my grandfather\u2019s room, even after all these years. Sitting there alone sometimes, the void in the room reminds me of Sufi Sheikh Fareed’s words, who said, \u201cO Sheikh! No one\u2019s life is permanent in this world. That seat upon which we now sit – many others sat on it and have since departed.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The belongings inside that almirah were to be shared. A division of his possessions, for all the things he ever owned were neatly stacked in piles and bundles. But no one wanted the clothes, the cool-looking cardigan, all the ironed kurtas, his grey coat, and the yellowish-cream coloured tied turban – kept intact exactly since the day he\u2019d last worn it. They didn\u2019t want these seemingly mundane things that made up their father. They all had their eyes set on something else.<\/span><\/p>\n

I could not understand why this was happening. Just days before he left, he had handed over the almirah’s keys to me, with a looming, \u201cit’s your responsibility now!\u201d as if he had sensed his departure. So while in that room, among all his sons, I was supposed to keep quiet, only there to wield the key. My mother had told me beforehand this would happen, but nothing could prepare me for the almost predatory activity that was about to unfold.<\/span><\/p>\n

All the jewellery kept in a locker was brought out and spread across a table. My grandparents’ rings, my dadi’s earrings, several slim bangles and thick karas<\/em>, nose-rings, gold and silver coins, they were all to be weighed at a local jeweller\u2019s shop, to be sold off and the sum was to be shared all equally.<\/span><\/p>\n

I remained quiet, as I was instructed. My mother stood at a distance with my aunts, observing the whole ordeal. As things were being scrutinized and kept aside into different piles, she suddenly intervened. \u2018Spare this pair of payal<\/em>,\u2019 she requested her brother-in-laws, gesturing to a pair of ancient anklets, cast in silver and now oxidized by the weather and years. She declared that she was ready to even pay for them- the anklets that were precious to her, meant simply a pile of silver to the men who surrounded the table.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Needless to say, we ended up paying more than my father\u2019s share of it. But we now know no amount of money would have matched up to the weight of history the anklets bore. That day, I realized that not all things could be weighed and valued through money. Some things are worth far more than we credit them for.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Later, my mother told us that the silver anklets were my grandmother\u2019s prized possessions. She had once shown them to her, telling her very fondly how she had received them from her mother-in-law.\u00a0The anklets had travelled with my grandparents when they moved to settle in Delhi, in the year 1949, from our native village Sidhwan Dona in Punjab\u2019s Kapurthala district.<\/span><\/p>\n

These antique silver anklets, heavy with an intricate and remarkably interlinked design are now safe with my mother. Although she had never worn them till recently, due to self-imposed inhibition, when she did finally put them on- gingerly and hesitantly- they looked beautiful on her feet! They are now part of her prized possessions, which remind her of her dear mother-in-law. They carry memories of a generation that is gone now, and stand as testament to those of us who have inherited them, striving to collect and preserve them.<\/span><\/p>\n